How the Core Paradigm can Help You

You know, when we speak, we are confident about a few things, at least. We are confident that when we say 'I' we mean to refer to ourselves. When we say we like something, we do; and when we say we hate something, we really do. When we say, "That's just the way 'I' am...we mean it...or do we?

The Core Paradigm is a discovery about the nature of the single most important aspect of being human; it is a discovery about the nature of our self conscious awareness. All mammals are aware and some may have some form of self awareness; but humans depend entirely on their ability to REFER things (everything) to themselves. We could not evaluate if we didn't know what was good for us or bad for us. It isn't that something is good for itself, it is good because we say it is and the same for bad.

When we developed the capacity of self reference it was first and foremost a survival imperative. "I kill you", I eat you" I sacrifice you to the Gods, so the tribe will have good fortune". We developed a powerful survival self consciousness which would guide all our fight/flight reactions...and then something odd happened; we developed a level of self conscious awareness that was driven by a new part of our ever expanding brain (the neo-cortex) which allowed us to understand ourselves in the context of all the universe. The 'Authentic Self' emerged as Homo Sapien, Sapien began walking the earth; and it brought with it the power to live with dreams, possibilities and promise for a brilliant tomorrow.

This dichotomy of two self conscious awarenesses has set us up for amazing capabilities and incredible pain. The 'I' of your auto/protector is NOT the 'I' of your Authentic Self...that is the simple explanation of the Core Paradigm. One person, two self consciousnesses, operating in a single body, using your language skills and running all of our behavior. We must use a form of self conscious awareness to guide all of our actions, but not the same self conscious awareness in every case.

When you are triggered by events you are no longer the same self conscious being you were a split second before being triggered. You use your conscious tools to defend yourself and rationalize your behavior. You say you hate, or despise, or can't stand something, but all that means is it is a threat to you and you need to get away from it or destroy it. When you come down from the adrenalin high of auto/protector behavior, you will say things like 'I' didn't mean that, of course I'll try it, I was just being foolish and many other statements that are now equally true.

When you are acting out of your survival mentality your wants, needs, and desires are nothing like what you really want, need or desire when you can access and use your Authentic personality. Discover this for yourself...it will make a difference to you as you begin to become aware of your auto/protector self and how uniquely different it is from who you really are. Authentic awareness is the key to overcoming most of the chronic life living problems you face. (go to http://www.lifeaftersurvival.com/ and read more about the Core Paradigm; buy the book, Life after Survival: Consciously Evolving our Consciousness.) You can have it all, happiness, well being, peace of mind, goodwill and harmonious relationships if you will become the author of your life...not the pre-scripted book of the auto/protector.

Learn to face your distressing situations with your Authentic Self still awake and available...love the ones you're with and enjoy the ride...Until next time, I remain...Respectfully Yours, Larry

A Thought for the Day: Anger and fear are the emotions of the auto/protector...they are not you...you are the one feeling those emotions and being present to life in all its struggle and all its glory.

An Action you can Take...When faced with upset of any kind ask yourself, What am I afraid of here?" and don't stop until you discover what is driving you to be in your defensive fight/flight mode of operation. Then feel the fear, pain, or loss and rediscover your compassion, appreciation and aliveness as you address these situations with love.